What's With Your Attitude?
Attacks on young people's intelligence and learning ability have been proven to have a profoundly negative and long-lasting impact that can often last for that person's entire life. Comments such as 'you're wrong', 'you're stupid', 'you're dumb' or 'you're never going to achieve anything' can shatter self-belief and can significantly impact the way a person views themselves - particularly when delivered at a young age. The major problem with this is that a person's self-confidence is directly related to the attitude they apply to their education (and their 'learning' in general). So when a negative comment is directed to a young person about their ability to learn and understand things, it can still be affecting the attitude they have to their schooling in high school, college and for their entire adult life.
So, with that in mind, ask yourself: have you ever had a negative experience in relation to your 'learning' that has damaged your confidence? Has a higher authority (such as a teacher, older sibling, someone at school, parent or relative) ever told you that you were pathetic, useless or stupid? If so, did you automatically believe it to be the truth? It must be the truth because it came from a higher (and often respected or feared) authority didn't it? Obviously, just because a higher authority says it doesn't make it true. But the impact of these attacks is often subconscious and can lurk deep in the mind - rather than be something the individual is acutely aware of.
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What Do You Say?
Research shows there is a very strong link between students with high self-esteem and high achievement level. As expected, the opposite is also true, low self-esteem tends to result in a low achievement level. So then, self-esteem is obviously important! As such, let's ask ourselves the following questions: What kind of communications about your learning were you subjected to when you were young? Positive or negative? What kind of communications about your learning are you subjected to now? Positive or negative? Most importantly of all, what kind of communications do you subject yourself to? Positive or negative? What does the little voice in your head say? Does the voice support you, build you up, give you confidence, tell you you're one smart cookie? Or does the voice bring you down, tell you to stay in bed today, tell you you're worthless, and make negative thoughts swirl around inside your head? What can you take away from asking yourself these questions? Did you learn anything just by asking yourself these questions?
Time To Make A Change!
Let's not get all down in the dumps feeling sorry for ourselves! You now understand one reason why people feel down about their learning ability. But whether or not you feel you have high self-esteem at the moment, the real point of this article is to help build you up and allow you to become the best you that you can possibly be. We want you to be awesome, not just good. We want you to be a powerful force, not just strong. So what do you want? Let's look at some tips to help boost your confidence.
1. Remember to be positive all the time - about everything single thing! If you don't feel positive just fake it. That's right, fake it! Fake it till you make it! There's little point in being negative anyway because it doesn't solve the problem does it? It actually just makes things worse. So, try being positive about every single thing for one whole week - even if it makes you feel sick! Give it a go. See what happens. You won't regret that you did. You'll also be surprised at how it trains your inner voice to start giving you positive feedback as well.
2. Think of all the good things about you and any success you have had. If you're not sure ask your friends, siblings or parents. What have you achieved so far? What would you like to achieve? What are the great things about you? Are you a good friend? What do you care about? What's important to you? Write down anything you can think and keep adding to the list when you think of something new. Read the list every morning when you wake up and every time you're feeling down in the dumps. Never allow your inner voice to tell you that there is nothing good about you. Fight back. Finally, stop comparing yourself to others. Whilst others' lives may seem to be perfect it's never the case. Don't fall into the trap of looking at the grass across the street - focus on your own grass! You don't know which one is really greener.
3. Associate with people who like, respect, and support you for who you are. Try to avoid people who are always looking to find fault with you. Why would you want to spend time with negative people? If they're negative about you or others, they are really just down on themselves. You may like to work with them on that flaw but ultimately people like that will be like a weight around your ankles - they'll drag you down.
4. Respect yourself. Your body is your temple. Take good care of yourself. Eat well. Do some exercise. Pump some iron. Get some good sleep. You will feel better about yourself if you are healthy and well rested. It's a fact if you are unhealthy and don't get enough sleep that you will actually feel much more negative. Don't believe it? Eat rubbish and don't sleep for a week - or do you already do that? (we hope not)
To read the full article please follow the links below. Good luck with your studies!
Attacks on young people's intelligence and learning ability have been proven to have a profoundly negative and long-lasting impact that can often last for that person's entire life. Comments such as 'you're wrong', 'you're stupid', 'you're dumb' or 'you're never going to achieve anything' can shatter self-belief and can significantly impact the way a person views themselves - particularly when delivered at a young age. The major problem with this is that a person's self-confidence is directly related to the attitude they apply to their education (and their 'learning' in general). So when a negative comment is directed to a young person about their ability to learn and understand things, it can still be affecting the attitude they have to their schooling in high school, college and for their entire adult life.
So, with that in mind, ask yourself: have you ever had a negative experience in relation to your 'learning' that has damaged your confidence? Has a higher authority (such as a teacher, older sibling, someone at school, parent or relative) ever told you that you were pathetic, useless or stupid? If so, did you automatically believe it to be the truth? It must be the truth because it came from a higher (and often respected or feared) authority didn't it? Obviously, just because a higher authority says it doesn't make it true. But the impact of these attacks is often subconscious and can lurk deep in the mind - rather than be something the individual is acutely aware of.
To read the full article please follow the links below.
What Do You Say?
Research shows there is a very strong link between students with high self-esteem and high achievement level. As expected, the opposite is also true, low self-esteem tends to result in a low achievement level. So then, self-esteem is obviously important! As such, let's ask ourselves the following questions: What kind of communications about your learning were you subjected to when you were young? Positive or negative? What kind of communications about your learning are you subjected to now? Positive or negative? Most importantly of all, what kind of communications do you subject yourself to? Positive or negative? What does the little voice in your head say? Does the voice support you, build you up, give you confidence, tell you you're one smart cookie? Or does the voice bring you down, tell you to stay in bed today, tell you you're worthless, and make negative thoughts swirl around inside your head? What can you take away from asking yourself these questions? Did you learn anything just by asking yourself these questions?
Time To Make A Change!
Let's not get all down in the dumps feeling sorry for ourselves! You now understand one reason why people feel down about their learning ability. But whether or not you feel you have high self-esteem at the moment, the real point of this article is to help build you up and allow you to become the best you that you can possibly be. We want you to be awesome, not just good. We want you to be a powerful force, not just strong. So what do you want? Let's look at some tips to help boost your confidence.
1. Remember to be positive all the time - about everything single thing! If you don't feel positive just fake it. That's right, fake it! Fake it till you make it! There's little point in being negative anyway because it doesn't solve the problem does it? It actually just makes things worse. So, try being positive about every single thing for one whole week - even if it makes you feel sick! Give it a go. See what happens. You won't regret that you did. You'll also be surprised at how it trains your inner voice to start giving you positive feedback as well.
2. Think of all the good things about you and any success you have had. If you're not sure ask your friends, siblings or parents. What have you achieved so far? What would you like to achieve? What are the great things about you? Are you a good friend? What do you care about? What's important to you? Write down anything you can think and keep adding to the list when you think of something new. Read the list every morning when you wake up and every time you're feeling down in the dumps. Never allow your inner voice to tell you that there is nothing good about you. Fight back. Finally, stop comparing yourself to others. Whilst others' lives may seem to be perfect it's never the case. Don't fall into the trap of looking at the grass across the street - focus on your own grass! You don't know which one is really greener.
3. Associate with people who like, respect, and support you for who you are. Try to avoid people who are always looking to find fault with you. Why would you want to spend time with negative people? If they're negative about you or others, they are really just down on themselves. You may like to work with them on that flaw but ultimately people like that will be like a weight around your ankles - they'll drag you down.
4. Respect yourself. Your body is your temple. Take good care of yourself. Eat well. Do some exercise. Pump some iron. Get some good sleep. You will feel better about yourself if you are healthy and well rested. It's a fact if you are unhealthy and don't get enough sleep that you will actually feel much more negative. Don't believe it? Eat rubbish and don't sleep for a week - or do you already do that? (we hope not)
To read the full article please follow the links below. Good luck with your studies!
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