Some Ideas On Overcoming Hurt And Pain

By Shirley Martin


Emotional pain is often caused by the persons that are closest to us. Dealing with this challenge is not easy for most people. When not dealt with, emotional hurt can lead to a disruption of your life and may even result in major depression disorder. Having the skills to confront such a situation will go a long way into helping you find peace with your inner self and move on. In this article we look at some options of overcoming hurt and pain.

Often times, the process of healing requires time. Depending on your level of resilience, you may need a few days, weeks or even years. Be ready to work patiently towards becoming your former self. If you find yourself in a situation that appears to be headed towards emotional heartache, make a point of getting out of it. Let things cool off and avoid acting on impulse as this is likely to aggravate the situation.

Take time to reflect on the situation. Let the events play out in your mind taking note of what role you and the other party played in creating the conflict. Ask yourself whether you responded appropriately in the situation and whether there is any different way you would have acted. In some cases, the feelings may become even deeper at this point in time. The important thing is to remain calm and to exercise restraint.

If from your reflection you feel that you have been wronged, you need to plan on how you will meet the other person. There is a chance that you could be misinterpreting the whole situation so getting a clarification is perfectly in order. You need to be open to all the possibilities and be ready to accommodate the views and intentions of the other individual.

Do not aggravate a situation that is already strained. You need to think carefully before you say anything and try as much as possible not to be aggressive or argumentative. Forcing an apology is not advised as it rarely works. In any case, some may apologize but this is not likely to be genuine. For those that chose to do it out of their own volition, forgiving and forgetting should be the objective.

In some situations, getting the opportunity to sort out the differences may be too difficult due to the hostility of the person involved or if getting to them is not practically possible. If you find yourself with such a challenge, there are still several other things that can be done. One of them is to shift focus and to think about the positives in our lives rather than the negatives.

It is important that you learn to take responsibility of hurtful situations. Placing the responsibility on another person gives them the power to determine the pattern of your feelings. It makes it more difficult to let go. On the other hand, when one is fully in control of the situation they can determine what they feel in the present and in future.

Surround yourself with people who have a positive mindset. Sharing your experience with a close friend will go a long way in helping you overcome the heartache. The friend will help you analyze the situation from different perspectives and may even suggest to you solutions that you can use.




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