How To Get Kids To Listen Without Becoming Frustrated

By Carolyn Long


Children have a lot going on, both on an emotional level as well as with what they have to do with their life. It is often difficult for them to listen to their parents and teachers. It is not always as if they are being disobedient. Very often, things become chaotic in their lives. Parents need to know how to get kids to listen without becoming frustrated.

Of course, this can be difficult when you are calling your child for dinner or you are trying to talk to them and they are busy in their own world. A lot of parents naturally become impatient and start to raise their voice. This is not very helpful because it can lead to a lot of conflict in the home. Some children become fearful of the parents.

When they are busy with something, such as an art project, they become completely engaged in it. They forget about what is going on within the home environment. They switch off to everything else, and parents don't always realize this. It is important for parents to connect with their child gently and make sure that they are listening before they actually start talking to them.

If you do raise your voice when they are focusing with something else, they may still not hear what you are saying. It is not helpful for them or for you. It will create a lot of chaos in the home not only for you, but also for the entire family. You may create a rift between you and the child. The child may also become fearful of you, and this is something that you obviously don't want.

It is also important not to exercise that sense of control or power over your child. A lot of parents have authority and children grow up becoming fearful of authority figures. Parents will just tell their kids to do as they say. You should be ready for a response. When a child questions an order or command, you need to come back with a reasonable answer.

There should be no control or power in the relationship because this will also create fear. Kids will start to listen to the adult, but it is not the right way to go about it. It will weaken the bond and they will grow up with psychological issues. They may find that that fear creeps in when they are exposed to authority figures in their life.

Of course, there are also kids who have a tough time listening in general because of something like autism. When they are busy with something that are completely focused, and you may not even be able to distract them. Parents need to learn how to talk to a child like this. It is not easy and you may become impatient at time, so this is something you have to keep under control.

Some children who battle hearing what you have to say, may also be suffering from something like autism or attention deficit disorder. If you find that they are switched off and you really can't get into their space, it may be a good idea to consult with a family doctor. They will refer you to a pediatrician. Parents need to handle the situation with a lot of love and encouragement, because it is not easy.




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